As a bridal accessories designer and wedding expert, I've done quite a bit of research in this field, and my advice is to remember the sacrifices your bridesmaids are making, and show them a little appreciation.
According to 10 Ways to be the Coolest Bride Ever - From Your Future Bridesmaid by Himani Amoli, pampering your bridesmaids with drinks, gifts, and parties is a must. She writes, "Shower us with presents! While we love doing this for you, it’s nice to get some gifts for helping you out," and "We won’t say no to some drinks, snacks, and extra pampering." While I'm sure these gestures would be appreciated, making the wedding all about your bridesmaids just might make you feel resentful in the end.
A second article entitled Top Ten Ways to Thank Your Bridesmaids by Borrowed and Blue offers similar advice, including buying them unique bridesmaids gifts in addition to treating them to manicures and pedicures. All of these tips are creative, well-meaning, and certainly generous, but may just leave you feeling broke! Plus, spending more cash or dishing out extra gifts won't necessarily convey your sincere appreciation. Money can't buy happiness!
1. Allow your bridesmaids to express their own individual style.
2. Don't make them get an updo.
Sound easy enough? It is! These three things are of no cost to you, but will mean the world to your bridesmaids. And you know what just might happen? No signs of resentment as they run errands with you, help you tie ribbons, hold your flowers...etc., knowing that you value their friendship and care about their happiness, too. No signs of Bridezilla.